My boyfriend is giving my stuff away?
My boyfriend and I have been together for over 7 years. He is very generous, and sometimes to a fault. We have 2 homes, both in my name. Since we moved to our second home, he has started giving away things from my first home, to his friends and family without consulting me. First it was my wood stove. Granted, we pulled out the stove because we are renting the house, and didn't want renters possibly burning it down. But, I planned on putting it back in when we sold it, or if we moved back in at a later date. Now he has given away the hot tub, which did need some repair, but it was in working order. Before that, he gave away an old car that belonged to me, to his brother. He did not consult me on any of this, and when I got angry at him, he acted indigent. He doesn't ask me first, he tells them they can have it, then tells me in front of them, so I feel like I can't say no without looking like the bad guy.
I don't have a problem with bartering, we need work done on our rental, but he's just giving the stuff away. And none of it belonged to him, it was mine, which I paid for.
He has plenty of things of his own he could give away, to name a few, an old RV, a mustang without a motor, golf clubs which he doesn't golf, and an old Honda Prelude sitting in our garage. But he doesn't want to "part" with his stuff. He has a tendency to try to be the hero all the time, at my expense.
Am I making a big deal out of this, or am I justified at being upset? How do I handle this without him getting defensive?