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Old 05-18-2006, 03:43 PM   #1
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Is it possible to be friends with the opposite sex?

and buy friends I mean No kind of physical affection being shown at all. Just friends. This is when either the guy or the girl has strong feelings for the other one but the other one "just want's to be friends"
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Re: Is it possible to be friends with the opposite sex?

Yes and no. You can do it, but I wouldn't recommend it to anyone. It usually doesn't last long if you try anyway.

I've been there and done that, and I won't do it again.
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^what he said
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Re: Is it possible to be friends with the opposite sex?

a couple of my best friends are girls, and I have had strong feelings for both of them for a long time. One, I did sleep with and mess around with, so she doesn't count, but the other is one of my best friends and have been for a loooong time. I used to be completely and hopelessly into her, and giving the right timing, i would date her now too, however, I have, a long time ago, come to realize that our friendship we share is a close bond, like siblings, which dating would ruin, and neither of us want that. So long story short, guys and girls can be friends.
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do fat chicks count? i can be friends with them and have no physical attraction to them either........
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Re: Is it possible to be friends with the opposite sex?

if one has feelings for the other then no cuz its just a bunch of drama waiting to happen.
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Yes I have several women friends. When I was younger it was hard because if they are remotely attractive you tend to want to "GET NAKED WITH THEM" But it is not a big problem when you get past 35ish. But at the age of 20 - 30it is quite tough because of all the games and peer pressure girls have to deal with their friends. Find a girl that does not play games or does not have a gaggle of girlfriends pulling her strings and you will find a no nonsense girlfriend. Keep them close and treat them right. If you hear the first time from a girlfriend " Well so and so's boy friend does this and that" RUN RUN FAST AND DONT LOOK BACK!!!!
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Yes I have several women friends. When I was younger it was hard because if they are remotely attractive you tend to want to "GET NAKED WITH THEM" But it is not a big problem when you get past 35ish. But at the age of 20 - 30it is quite tough because of all the games and peer pressure girls have to deal with their friends. Find a girl that does not play games or does not have a gaggle of girlfriends pulling her strings and you will find a no nonsense girlfriend. Keep them close and treat them right. If you hear the first time from a girlfriend " Well so and so's boy friend does this and that" RUN RUN FAST AND DONT LOOK BACK!!!!
A girl that doesn't play games? HA! IMPOSSIBLE!
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Re: Is it possible to be friends with the opposite sex?

95% of all of my friends are guys, so i would assume that yes, you can be friends with the opposite sex...my best friend happens to be a guy
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Re: Is it possible to be friends with the opposite sex?

At this age...no. When I am friends with a chic, if she is remotely attractive, I will want to bone her and probably make it knows. All through school all I hung with were my g/f's friends...and wanted to bone them and moved through the group as far as dating goes.

When I am older and wiser....maybe next year or so....it might be possible. Right now, no.
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I have plenty of female friends.
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yeah, I have a lot of female friends
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Re: Is it possible to be friends with the opposite sex?

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95% of all of my friends are guys, so i would assume that yes, you can be friends with the opposite sex...my best friend happens to be a guy
yeah. growing up with only a brother, I tend to have more guy friends than girl friends, and even though it can get interesting some times, I've found that I can still be friends with them... it just sometimes takes a bit of work. My best friend is a guy as well..
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Re: Is it possible to be friends with the opposite sex?

yes. its easier for girls, but its possible for guys too.

example: im just friends with some girls i find not attractive. i date the good lookin ones.
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Re: Is it possible to be friends with the opposite sex?

yeah same here.

its also impossible to be "just friends" with your Ex. no matter what, someones gonna get hurt, and its usually the one who didnt see it coming.
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That's a hard one !!!! Sure you can be friends but in the back of your mind your always wondering "what if " .Being a friend is nothing more then the fire ax in the glass case use only in case of emergency
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yeah you can, when you have been with the same girl for 2 1/2 years, you sort of instantly be come "that guy buddy" for all the other girls you meet.
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You know as well as anyone else that if you have feelings for someone and she wants to be friends it wont work... no way around it... girlfriends are mean anyway, enjoy being single trust me...
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You can be just friends, just takes self control.
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Re: Is it possible to be friends with the opposite sex?

The whole issue here is the matter of whether or not you've already had some type of "relationship" with the girl. If you haven't, sure you can be friends with the opposite sex. No problem there.

But if you have, things are a lot different.
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True..but..I'm friends with all but one of my ex's. No problems there from my side, we talk, just no attraction, at least from my side. They'll call me when they have problems b/c normally I was the only stable thing in their lives during certain times. I guess that's a good and bad thing...
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Ok say you fell for them hard and you were... say lead on... that they felt the same way... only to find out they just wanted to be friends.... do you think you could just be friends in that case? Knowing that you feel the way you do about them and them knowing the same?
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You should discuss this with her. I would explain the situation and the things she did and said that made you feel that there could have been more there than what was. Then I would still be friends but keep her at arms length. These situations seem to most often not work out and eventually you lose contact. It's sad but one side keeps trying while the other acts indifferent to the other's pain. If this sounds like I've had experience at this, it's because I have.
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You should discuss this with her. I would explain the situation and the things she did and said that made you feel that there could have been more there than what was. Then I would still be friends but keep her at arms length. These situations seem to most often not work out and eventually you lose contact. It's sad but one side keeps trying while the other acts indifferent to the other's pain. If this sounds like I've had experience at this, it's because I have.
Word. I'm going to throw something out here that may sound harsh, but hey that's life. Tell her how you feel. Tell her that you felt that she led you on and exactly why you felt that way. If she still is not interested in anything beyond being friends, tell her that you are sorry but that being friends isn't going to work. Then move on. Go to the strip club, get drunk with your friends, and forget about her.

Who knows you may eventually hear back from her. She may change her mind. But there is no need to it around and wait on that to happen either. There are too many girls in this world for all that.

Trying to be friends with someone you have feelings for will just end up causing pain for you (for obvious reasons) and them as well. If they really give two ****s about you, the fact that you are obviously unhappy will make them unhappy as well.

As I said, I have been here and done this before and wasted about 6 months of my life on one girl. Needless to say, it wasn't worth it. I will never do it again. Since then I have had another girl to try to put me in that position as well. I basically told her to get ****ed, and I feel that it was probably one of the best decisions I have ever made.
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I think you already know exactly what you need to do, you are just trying to justify it. Do what you know is right not what you wish was right.
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If you really like this girl as a person and would like to keep her in your life as a friend...it will take alot of restraint on your part not to get jealous and stuff, but it will be worth it in the end. If you can't do that, let it go...too many girls out there....BTW, my best friend is also my ex, it can work.
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Girls are like vegetables, once you take all the juices out of em your still left with vegetables.
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