girlfriend broke up with me tonight...

synister232 · **girlfriend broke up with me tonight...**

she said it was her not me she said i was perfect. she told me that she wasnt feeling the spark between us like she used to and that she needed "time to find herself" basically from what i could figure.

i seriously never cried so much in my life.

goodbye kiss and now here i am.

this sucks so much...i have no idea what to do now. just thought i'd tell someone

-Mike

Rellik · 08-02-2003, 10:23 PM

awww man, iam sorry.
Its all good tho, you'll find osmeone better.

fast64 · 08-02-2003, 10:27 PM

I'm sorry dude

synister232 · 08-02-2003, 10:31 PM

thanks guys...

but i love her to death. it hurts so bad inside now. i wish she would call me and say she made a mistake and she wants me back right now.

spend that much time with a girl and she leaves on a whim.

fuck.

Laser02 · 08-02-2003, 10:38 PM

That happened to my friend a couple weeks ago. She needed a month apart. Then she took all "their" money out of savings. And had three guys and a sheriff break into his house to retrieve "their" things. Hope it goes better for you!

dark · 08-02-2003, 10:43 PM

in my experience... "it's not you, it's me" means that she's found someone else

but look at the bright side, at least she didn't cheat on you

fuck that #####... move on, and let her play catch up

:x

synister232 · 08-02-2003, 11:17 PM

the biggest tear in my heart just happened a few minutes ago...

wehn i left her house after the whole thing we said "i love you" about a million times...

so just before i get off the phone i tell her i love her and she starts crying, i say whats the matter? she says "nothing' then i say it again and she crys more. i said 'why cant you say it?" she said she doesnt know.

so things just took a worse step backwards.

guess theres no more chances left here ...

i'm really sick right now. 2.5 years and she just cant say she loves me?

i'm going out for a late drive now, hope i get back w/out a ticket or a crash cuz i'm really just devastated right now.

dark · 08-02-2003, 11:19 PM

nah, don't drive like that. it puts others in danger, not just you

synister232 · 08-02-2003, 11:22 PM


Quote: Originally Posted by darkling nah, don't drive like that. it puts others in danger, not just you

i'm just in a very sick mood right now... and theres lots of open roads out here so i wont put anyone in danger... just me like that matters.

Laser02 · 08-02-2003, 11:26 PM

I agree. Go drive. I get really pissed off sometimes and that's the only thing that sets stuff right. Good luck, man.

98Blue232 · 08-03-2003, 12:02 AM

I say you should give it some time syn. My girlfriend gave me the same crap while we were at college a year ago. About a week later she came crawling back practicly begging me to take her back. She was in tears and saying how she had a rough week and she had issues with herself and she just took it out on me and bla bla bla. Since I was such a pushover I took her back and boy was the make-up sex great :mrgreen:

Fishers Stang · FDNY 343 9-11-01

Syn, man I am sorry I know what you mean but hey if you need anything we can get some chicks here in indy, I will meet ya 1/2 way!! haha hope you dont get into trouble tonight.! :|

Rellik · 08-03-2003, 01:10 AM

Well just stay friedns, never know what will happen next.

Fishers Stang · FDNY 343 9-11-01


Quote: Originally Posted by Smokedya95stang Well just stay friedns, never know what will happen next.

hehe thats right.. my ex called me up last night to come over hehehe

8)

Rellik · 08-03-2003, 01:23 AM

SEE, theres alwaysa bright side.

tire · 08-03-2003, 02:42 AM

synister,

i'm only opening up this much online because i really do have something to contribute. i was in a depression for 1 1/2 years when my girlfriend went from almost becoming my fiance, to completely and totally ignoring me, for reasons i will never know for sure. i've been humiliated in a hospital i was stuck in, i was so fucked up. i let myself go into a downward spiral that led to not wanting to live.

you must keep your head up the best you can. it sucks now, that much i won't deny. also, it will be months, maybe years before you are completely over her. in a way, you may never be over her. accept this, and try to realize that every day brings a new chance to do something you've never done before. i would advise hanging out with your girl friends. they supported me and made me forget for moments that i was in my own hell.

my good friend lauren passed away two weeks ago. with shame, i admit that my girlfriend breaking up with me hit me harder than my friend's actual death. it hurts me just to write that. i am a shitty person to even think that, but it is what i feel and i won't deny it.

do yourself a favor in the longrun. confront your feelings in the next weeks and try to brush this off so that you won't spoil your chance with another lucky girl.
my thoughts will be with you...


Quote: Originally Posted by Smokedya95stang Well just stay friedns, never know what will happen next.

i don't mean to call you out on this, but most people that have been in a serious relationship before agree that this is not possible, at least not for many weeks or months.

if you were to be friends with her now, synister, you will be wanting to be bf /gf with her, and drive yourself mad thinking of ways to win her back. in fact, you'd probably succeed before she'd break your heart again by breaking up with you yet again. give yourself time to adjust to being single again. if she really cares for you, she will be around when you've both healed enough to attempt a friendship. she is most likely almos tas sad as you are right now, but i don't know the situation.

MusclesFromBrussels · 08-03-2003, 09:59 AM

fuck the bitches

TriStateStang · 08-03-2003, 01:21 PM

Syn, I have been there before and been through the same pain. My ex left me after 27 months and that was about a year and a half ago. All I can say is that you have to move on. I tried to change her mind for the first two months and we told each other we would remain friends. Neither worked out that way. We talk from time to time, but we don't hang out as friends like we did before we started dating. I can honestly say that I didn't get over her until 4 months ago when I met someone else. All I can tell you is that it gets easier to deal with in time and there are lots of fish in the sea. But when I think back on it, I think I drove her away by trying over and over again to get her to change her mind. If it is really meant to be between you two, let her have her space to think and if she does want you back, she will find you. I feel your pain and just stay busy with other things, like your stang, it will help you keep your mind off of it.

-Mike

synister232 · 08-03-2003, 03:46 PM

thanks so much for everything guys... all your words have really helped put things in perspective. really thanks alot.

well here's more to the story,

she has been hanging out with her friend elva alot mor recently and this girl is a complete #####. she broke up with her boyfriend of 2 years a couple of months ago and i think that influenced my girl. now they go out constantly and i never say anything.

for example...

she tore out my heart again today...

she tells me to call her and i do, where is she??? AT THE FUCKING MALL with her friend ELVA. #### that bullshit. shes acting like nothing happened yesterday and saying how she cant act sad in the mall. how fucking gay is that? she can turn her emotions on and off when shes at home and when shes at the mall!?!??!?!?!?!?

wtf.

i'm not only sad i'm pissed.

and now she doesnt even say "i love you" before we hang up.

this completely sucks and hurts...it felt like she didnt even care about the 2 1/2 years i dedicated to her.

Rellik · 08-03-2003, 04:06 PM

np, i think we've all went throught that before.

Fishers Stang · FDNY 343 9-11-01

dude, it will get better.. :arrow: