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Actually, I still cant believe that I'm going to still go through with it. Let me give you a little background before I tell you what I'm about to do.

My Senior year, I met this girl in my Choir Class (Yes I took Choir, and went on to professional Choir for 2 years afterwards). Her name is Samantha, and she was a Freshamn. Anyway, we hook up for about a year and a half, and when I was half way through my first year of college, she and I parted ways... for the 4th time.

Shortly afterwards, I move to New Mexico.

I come back for a visit, and I just wanted to see her. So I did... and ended up moving back to California.. mostly for her, but also because of the better jobs.

We get back together July 4th 2002. And actually sleep together for the first time a week after we were back together... yes, we waited long enough. We actually started talking about marrage 3 years earlier, and we were actually thinking about just running off and doing it.

But she turned into a total nut case (she was treating me like ####) and I dumped her 3 months later. I don't need another nut in my life. I promised myself that it would be the last time I was with her. We were together on and off for 5 years.

Now for the present situation:

She emailed me Yesterday, and as I'm wiring a responce, she call my cell phone. We talk for about an hour, and I told her I would see her sometime this week.

I just got back from seenig her at her work. And damn it, we're going to go see a movie tonight!!! Grrrrrrrr. What really pisses me off, is that I feel/know that I still love her. Is this the girl that just wont get out of my heart?! I mean what the hell? Are all the relationships I've been in since her gone to hell because my subconcious was telling me to compare every other girl to Samantha? This will be our 7th time getting back together if the cards are delt the way I think they are.

I've only really loved 3 women in my life. Nikki (my best female friend of 7 years), Nikkee (a girl who I rarly talk about anymore), and Samantha.

I saw her today, and all I wanted to do was to hold her for as long as we've been apart. But she stayed behind the desk... which was probably a good idea anyway.

But I promised myself that the last time was deffinatally the last time... and here I am kicking myself in the ass for folding on that.

Love does some f*ed up stuff... I swear.
 

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just go for it. if you still have feelings for her, then tell her.

if she becomes a nut again, then tell her to see someone cause you care for her and think she needs help. love is a #####, but can be better when you know the feeling is mutual
 
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dude u know im goin thru the same situation right now right???
 

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Thats the thing, I've always had feelings for her, and she knows that. Just as I know that she's always wanted my last name. I guess I'll just have to tell her what's up. Even when I broke up with her, It tore me apart because I KNEW I still loved her. I guess I'll see what happens tonight. The movie doesnt start till 7:00, so I'll probably end up talking to her till the movie starts. Last time we were in that situation... we ended up getting back together. :-?
 
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all i gotta say was she spent the night last night and it was a pretty intense night i had to work this morning and im runnin on about 3 hours of sleep. So far its goin good but every day with her makes me more and more attatched i can feel it.
 

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Yes Choir. And beleive it or not, People say I actually have a good voice. I better have a good one too... I've only been singing for about 8 years, professionally and as a hobby with my old garage bands.
 

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All I have to say is follow your heart, but be real and tell her exactly what your afraid of you never know she may have the same fears.......... But be honest as you can...............
 
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ive been on and off for 3 and a half years
 

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hey dont let him mess with you. im in a collage acapella group. and we rock. so eat it! :mrgreen: :mrgreen:

dude. It is natural to be attracted to people who you have been with before. She is going through the same thing you are. But if you keep it up you are just going to repeat the same cycle.
 

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Keep us posted on what goes on tonight.
 

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relik,

i would post a lot about this, because i have gone through situations vaguely similar to yours, but i won't, because it will bore both you and me.

basically, do what your heart tells you. i'm a passionate person so it comes easy. if you are both getting back together a lot, it may mean something. unelss you both have serious dependency problems, which i doubt, you have a deep attachment that may need a new outlook on. there is a reason why people keep coming in contact like that, and it's called love.

as far as "advice", since you inferred you want some, or at least want to hear our opinions, i would say just play it by ear. meaning, go with your gut. she must be a special girl. i hope things turn out for the best and if you'd like, feel free to update me /us in a few weeks. good luck, girls can be a bear to sort out at times.
 

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Well, what a great night this turned out to be. One of those "Bitter-sweet" nights. Samantha and I talked it over, talked a lot about what happened last time, and came to an agreement. If we were ever to get back together, that we would both try to work it out while still being together. But yeah, we went out to dinner and then to go see a movie (Pirates of the Caribbian). And with only being with her for an hour, I realized that I couldn't stay away from her.

So yeah, we're back together as of last night. I had forgotten how good of a kisser I trained her to be :mrgreen:.

Another plus... would be that I got my FordChip in the mail :mrgreen:. Watch out Stang01, I will beat you at the track.

So I bet you're wondering... what was the bitter part of the night?

That happened when I got home and started talking to a particular good friend of mine. I've only known this guy for about a year, but we had become pretty close friends.

Anyway, Last weekend he go hang out with this chick he knows and wants to hook up with pretty bad. And I cant blame him... she's hot as hell. Anyway we go clubbin, and he basically says, "Tonight could be the last night I can be with her, so just stay back Evin. Let me do my thing." We were supposed to meet up with a few other female friends there, but they never showed up. So it's just me, him and the chick. The music starts and she starts dancing with me instead of him.

Now... I'm the driver, and I'm only there with 2 other people. What the hell was I supposed to do? Go find a chair somewhere out of sight and disappear? Hell there was probably 500 other people at this club. The chances of finding 2 out of 500 are pretty slim. Was I supposed to just stand there and be no fun at all? Honestly, I dont know what the hell I was supposed to do given the circumstances. SO I did what I thought would be alright. I danced. And no, I wasn't about to go dance with the guy.

Anyway, we end up leaving at about 1230, and I get to drive both of them home. After dropping her off, he and I start talking about how she didnt sdance with him at all and what not... but nothign about me dancing with her. And we kinda bonded a little.

So 2 days later, last night, he calls me a 2 faced, back stabbing mutherf*r. And basically told me to go f*k a tree stump. I tried to explain it to him, but hell, he wan't even in the right mind to hear what I was saying. So He's yelling at me, I'm trying to calm him down, but it just didnt work. He basically told me to f* off, eat ####, and die for taking the one last chance he had with this girl.

Now by this time, I'm feeling like ####. This isn't what I wanted. Hell, I consider this one of my good friends. Now, he f*ing slams the door in my face last night as I'm talkign to him, and I had to write him an email instead. He may want to drop me, but damn it, I dont want to loose this friendship! :x

Any advice on that? BTW, thanks for all the advice on the Samantha ordeal. I did what you guys advised and what I was going to do anyway. I listened to my heart. But as for the tornup friendship... My heart tells me to fight like a bastard... but I dont know how to. :x
 

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You could try to set him and that chick back up..if that is possible?
 

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At this point, That is so out of the question it's not even funny. But you're right, it is always an option. :|

I dont give up easily (at all) on friendships like this.
 
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